The Separation of Tasks (And How It Helped Me Stop Taking Rejection Personally)
Most people who quit their business don’t stop because they weren’t smart enough, talented enough, or even consistent enough.
They stopped because they couldn’t handle the no’s.
The rejection.
The unsubscribe.
The client who ghosted.
The friend who didn’t support their launch.
The post that flopped.
But here’s the thing…
Most of those things were never your responsibility in the first place.
That’s where the Separation of Tasks comes in.
It’s an idea from Alfred Adler that changed the way I run my business (and my life):
“We can never be responsible for another person’s task. To intrude is to rob them of the opportunity to grow.”
Said another way:
It’s not your job to manage other people’s reactions.
It’s your job to make the offer.
It’s their job to decide if it’s right for them.
That’s it.
I used to take it personally when someone didn’t buy from me.
Now I remind myself:
That’s not my task.
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Showing up consistently = my task.
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Delivering value = my task.
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Making offers = my task.
Whether they buy, comment, share, or ignore?
That’s theirs.
And let me tell you — once you learn to let go of what you can’t control, you move faster, think clearer, and burn out way less.
Because most of the weight you’re carrying isn’t from the work.
It’s from trying to control what isn’t yours to hold.
If you're building something, just remember:
You don’t need everyone to say yes.
You just need to keep doing your part.
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